Comparison of children brought up with or without a father
Children who grew up in homes without a father figure often tend to develop a more mature approach to challenges which may occur in their lives. The fact that they were brought up by a single mum makes them endure a lot of responsibilities as well as enabling them to make decisions which are reasonable. This attributed to the fact that the mother made sure that all necessary facts about life were instilled on the young child as they grew up hence they are able to carry out more important tasks on their own. In this case the mother works extra hard to rear her child in the most appropriate way possible so that the child may not feel indebted. The mother could also be striving to carry out the fatherly roles in order to reduce any occurrences brought about by poor parenting.
Similarly, children who have been brought up in homes where the father figure is present also portray some degree of responsibility. Fathers are often regarded as the family disciplinarian and any misdeeds are punished or rectified before they accumulate to dangerous levels. Therefore, a child who is brought up in a home where the father is present will also develop responsible attributes due to the constant reprimands from their father. The child could develop such skills not from the mere presence of their father but due to the father’s ineptness to rear his children better than those of homes without the father.
In both cases, the parent’s who are playing the role of the father will overdo themselves to ensure that their children adapt the best of manners and discipline. At the end of the day, children brought up in families with or without fathers will be able to portray the same level of discipline and responsibility. In as much as the children may be ignorant in some ways, the satisfaction obtained by fulfilling the desires of the parent overshadows all other childhood aspects giving rise to mature all rounded children.
Contrast between children who grow up with or without a father
Children who grow up without a father figure at home may fail to understand the role played by men and especially if they are boys. When such children realize that their mothers are capable of providing everything that is required and needed at home without seeking for assistance makes them loose respect for their male counterparts. Such children may find it being difficult to establish their own families due to the fact that they have seen homes with single parents thriving.
Similarly, children brought up in homes with a father will develop great respect to their fathers due to their contribution towards achievement of balanced parenting. Such children will be in a better position to sustain their roles in the family set-up to so as to maintain the same attributes passed on by their fathers.
Young girls will not seek for any assistance from men and to them marriage becomes an alien institution as they believe in themselves providing for their families in addition to bringing up children. Young men who grew up in homes without fathers tend to accord much respect to women hence they invest a lot in their marriages as a way of ensuring that their wives are comfortable. Similarly, the young men will value the presence of a complete family as they never had the opportunity to enjoy similar surroundings. Hence they try as much as possible to make their children comfortable and ensure that they receive maximum support from each side of the parents.
Children who grow up with fathers are likely to take family settings less seriously due to the fact that they never realized the importance of being brought up in a normal home setting. The need to respect women for their contribution towards making homes run effectively is not given much attention due to lack of concrete situations which relates to their lives.
Research has shown that children who grow up in families with fathers tend to develop realistic role models as they grow up hence chances of achieving their childhood dreams are higher than for those who lack father role models. The recognition and appreciation obtained from parents has been shown to impact positively on the overall performance at school as well as in extracurricular activities. This is because there is more exposure to various components of environments as well as increased self-esteem from both parents hence chances of expounding on the hobbies are higher.
Similarly, children growing up without fathers may not have enough opportunities to explore other areas of interest as they may be obsessed with being good children in addition to trying as much as possible not to annoy their parent. Occasionally, the mother may restrict certain motives by the child as a way of responsible parenting and in the process loose focus on childhood needs.